“Death has a curious way of reshuffling one’s priorities.” Jack Sparrow, Pirates of the Caribbean: At World’s End (2007)

I went to my first ever funeral on Monday this week in Taipei, where my grandpa passed away after almost one whole year of battling with illnesses and being sent in and out of the emergency unit of his nearest hospital. I found the funeral, which was held in a very traditional Chinese/Buddhist style, extremely strange, to say the least. As a Christian, I’ve always believed that death is something to be celebrated, as “to live is Christ, and to die is gain” (Philippians 1:21). But in traditional Chinese funerals, it’s almost considered disrespectful not to grieve. The atmosphere was somber and altogether depressing. That, however, is another story for another time.  The reason I brought it up was to put emphasis on today’s topic — life — and the focus of today’s post — #YOLO?

Brought up by protective Chinese parents in an Asian country, I have always felt keenly the injustice of being female because of all the (not-so-)exaggerated dangers we could encounter that my parents would never stop reminding me of (e.g. being assaulted on streets at night and being unable to fight back). (I’m sure dangerous things happen to men too, but for some reason, the general opinion is that the fairer sex is more prone to such experiences.)

Since summer 2014, I have entertained the wonderful idea of taking a gap year after university to do volunteering work with an international organisation in South Africa (where I’ve been on a family holiday and have fallen in love with). And lately, I have repeatedly brought up with my folks this plan of mine, which they have repeatedly rejected saying “it is too dangerous for a girl” and that “life has no take two”.

Funny how both our main reasoning is that we only live once, but the conclusions we come to are so different.  I, with all my idealism (and not a bit of stubbornness too, perhaps), want to make the most of my life by helping others, going on adventures, and storing up experiences, while my parents feel that I should be sheltered and protected in every possible way. Where is the balance, where is the line to be drawn? Guess this is another thing to ponder upon and pray about.

With love,



Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails. {Proverbs 19:21}


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